Resources

Dr. Elana Hoffman’s favorite resources for moving through and healing after divorce, and for making the most of the meaningful relationships in your life.

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So, Your Wife Left You…Now What?

Dr. Elana’s Book

This book is a must-have for anyone going through a divorce, particularly men. It is a no-nonsense look at what I see as a couple’s therapist go awry in relationships, as well as practical advice (on co-parenting, parenting, dating, sex) for moving forward and finding your next chapter. Divorce IS an opportunity for learning, and this book will help you see that!

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BOOK REVIEWS

  • A single dad sitting on a bench with his son, smiling together

    Entertaining and highly readable

    “So Your Wife Left You, Now What?" is a wonderful, entertaining and highly readable book for men navigating the end of a relationship. It has age-after-page of practical tools and meaningful insights on how to build a healthy and happy life post-divorce. When your “happily-ever-after” didn’t go as planned – this book is an invaluable resource. I would highly recommend this book to all my clients and colleagues. Dr. Elana Hoffman is nothing short of a national treasure.”

    James Sexton, NYC Divorce Attorney

  • A man holding a book and sitting on a couch

    Clear guidance and practical strategies

    “This book offers a transformative experience through clear guidance and practical strategies designed for men seeking personal growth and positive change after a divorce. Dr. Hoffman blends authentic and humorous insight with effective clinical strategies that empower the reader to navigate the turbulent waters of divorce. A must read for cisgendered heterosexual men looking to turn a painful experience into a journey of self-awareness and interpersonal successes. I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend this book to clients and colleagues.”

    Dr. Korrin Saunders, Clinical Psychologist in Private Practice

  • A man standing on a balcony, looking thoughtfully toward the horizon

    A fantastic resource

    “In my therapy practice, I work with many men navigating problems in their
    relationships, who struggle with where to start, especially during and after a divorce. Dr. Hoffman’s book for divorced men is a fantastic resource that I will be recommending to these clients in the future. The topics are covered in an easily digestible way, including for those without much or any therapy experience. Many people will have a friend or family member go through a divorce, want to help, but not know exactly how. Buying this book as a gift, combined with an offer of a listening ear and spending time together is a winning combination to be there for the divorced men in your life.”

    Dr. CJ Seitz-Brown, Clinical Psychologist in Private Practice

  • A man sitting outside, reading a book

    Upbeat and totally accessible

    “This book is a treasure chest for men in the early stages of divorce. The friendly, upbeat and totally accessible way the book is written left me hanging on to every single word. I love the author’s honest and accurate approach to providing guidance and inspiration during this challenging period of life. I particularly resonate with her encouragement towards an uncontested divorce and the useful tools to understand how to navigate the dating world to show up wiser, healthier and more balanced than before. I’m delighted to pass this invaluable resource forward to friends and clients.”

    Natasha Esther Zara, break up and relationship coach and co-founder of Happily Divorced

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Podcast

Talk Relationship To Me

Dr. Elana’s Podcast

On her podcast (coming January 2026!), Dr. Hoffman explores all things relationships! Dating, divorce, long-term marriage, monogamy, sex, non-mongamy, and the occasional break-down of her favorite TV shows (with important take-aways, of course), Dr. Hoffman examines it all. Solo or with a guest, through her lens as a therapist combined with her lived experience, she covers all you wanted to know about what makes relationships work (and fall apart).

Coming Soon →

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Recommended Reading

Dr Hoffman includes this in her book as well, but here is a list of recommended books on relationships, divorce, affairs, mental health, parenting, and family of origin.

  • “Attached” by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller

  • “The ADHD Effect on Marriage” by Melissa Orlov

  • “Come as You Are” by Emily Negoski

  • “Come Together” by Emily Negoski

  • “Getting the Love You Want” by Harville Hendrix

  • “The State of Affairs” by Esther Perel

  • “Mating in Captivity” by Esther Perel

  • “The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce” by Judith Wallerstein, Julia Lewis, and Sandra Blakeslee

  • “This American Ex-Wife” by Lyz Lenz

  • “Not Just Friends: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity” by Shirley P. Glass

  • “How to Talk to Your Kids About Your Divorce” by Samantha Rodman-Whiten

  • “The Anxious Generation” by Jonathan Haidt

  • “Hold Me Tight” by Sue Johnson

  • “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents” by Lindsey Gibson

  • “She Comes First” by Ian Kerner

  • “Parenting from the Inside Out” by Daniel Siegel MD and Mary Hartzell

  • “How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk” by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

  • “Building Healthy Minds” by Stanley Greenspan

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